We all know how interesting being an Adult sounded like when we were much younger. And like Robert Redford said, “The tough thing about adulthood is it starts before you even know it starts”.
The feeling of being your own boss, getting things done by yourself, taking your own decisions, and the most exciting part was getting your personal space.
I must say Adulthood is one of the most exciting parts of our lives, but what no one ever told you was, it comes with its challenges too.
Some of the challenges we get to face as Adults and how to handle them.
1. Seeking validation or dealing with an Identity crisis
One of the challenges Adults would mostly face while in the phase of finding themselves is seeking validation.
We want to be accepted by friends and society. We try to meet up with the life society has defined as the way an adult should live.
And more concerned about if society or our friends will accept us. What we need to do, the way we need to act to be accepted, appreciated and recognized by others.
How do you handle this?
There is much to the person you are that you haven’t discovered as an adult, pay closer attention to that and be less troubled of being accepted or validated.
Likewise, there is much uniqueness and beauty to who you are as an adult, and you need to understand that, so the world does not tell you something different.
Sometimes, the validation you seek from others is another way of making yourself who you are not, a different person entirely.
Take your time as an adult to discover what you like, and what you don’t, your hobbies, your goals, this way you can figure out those that you should be friends with and those that you shouldn’t, basically knowing the right circle to grow with as an Adult.
And this is the one that truly brings us to the reality of being an adult. Work to do, bills to pay, taking care of yourself, financial independences and decisions to make, while the adult in you will always say, “you better be sure you are making the right one”.
I mean it is a total arm-twisting situation for most adults. And you just want to be that child again with no responsibilities to juggle here and there.
It is quite challenging, particularly for those that are new to the whole stage. And this makes most adults run from whatever looks like a responsibility because it is a tough one.
But how do you handle responsibilities as an adult?
When you become responsible for your actions, decisions, life and most things that you do, this helps you to become a better person.
So how do you handle your responsibilities?
i. Stop complaining about the responsibilities and take that one step to face it and do it.
You will be surprised that it is easier than you thought.
ii. Being an adult doesn’t mean you will always be able to figure everything out, especially when it comes to taking an important decision, it’s okay when you don’t know what to do at some point.
You can always talk to an older person or take your time to make the right decisions. Don’t rush yourself or let the society or anyone rush you.
Just breath and take one step at a time.
Learn to take care of what you need to take care of, don’t just leave them hanging. This way, you can be even happier, relaxed, and proud of who you will become through this phase.
iii. Sometimes all you need to do is make a note of everything you need to achieve then take care of each responsibility one by one.
As an adult, you need to understand that this is another stage of learning and building yourself.
You are not responsible for becoming a perfect person but you are responsible for your personal growth.
Adulthood is not an age, but a stage of knowledge of self.